Please be good to me...
Thursday, September 1, 2011
Sunday, August 28, 2011
JUST WANTED TO SHARE
Just wanted to share ...and i found this from the google web...
Falling in love may be a common expression in much of the Western world but it isn’t used much elsewhere. The phrase may be connected to the idea of "falling head over heels," which was used in the 1300s, and is another term for being struck suddenly by great romantic attraction to someone else. Even with this connection, it can be hard to get a beat on what falling in love means, or what it feels like. Each person may define this experience somewhat differently.
Generally, when a person falls in love they have heightened romantic interest in someone else, and this doesn’t necessarily have to occur at first sight. Many people are friends first and find over time their feelings change to those more romantic in nature. They might want more from a relationship than just friendship and they may cherish more than friendly feelings for the person with whom they’ve fallen in love.
The word fall suggests that there’s a certain helplessness about these feelings of attraction, and they’re not necessarily within the control of the person stricken suddenly with great affection. It is true that people can’t always determine who or what attracts them, but they don’t have to be helpless in this regard. People can make choices about whether to act on romantic feelings. However, for those experiencing falling in love for the first few times, the feelings can seems so powerful that there seems little choice but to act upon them. Some people have challenges maturing out of this impulse, which can make forming lasting romantic relationships very difficult.
It would be hard to dispute that initial feelings of attraction and the “falling in love” state are powerful. For centuries, writers and poets have sung both the agonies and joys of discovering passionate feelings for someone else. Chaucer called this early “love” state the “dredful joye” representing both the pitfalls and ecstasy. Infatuation and romantic interest especially at the onset of a relationship can be both painful and exciting.
People have verifiable physiological reactions when in this early love state. A sight of the object of their affection may cause the pulse to race and the body to sweat. Certain neurotransmitters in the brain tend to be produced in greater volume, which can promote happiness and some anxiety. Yet most social scientists would agree that the reaction is not entirely a chemical one and involves the thinking brain and the emotions on numerous levels.
Another point on which most psychologists would agree is that falling in love is most certainly not the same as maintaining a sustained love relationship. Falling in love tends to be easy, but remaining in love with a person can be difficult. The rush of feelings accompanied with the flush of early love make it hard to judge exactly how viable a relationship might be in the future. For this reason, it’s not recommended that people make quick decisions or lifelong commitments while in this early stage. Getting to know someone after the roller coaster ride of falling in love with him or her may be a fantastic way to determine if the initial fall into love leads to lasting love.
SHE LOVE ME
I'd like to introduce you to Dan Waber, an excellent concrete poet ..Here are poems of Dan's.
She Loves Me
"Say you love me," she says.
"I love you," I say.
"Say it again," she says.
"I love you," I say again.
"Say it once more," she says.
"I love you," I say once more.
"Say it louder," she says.
"I love you," I emote theatrically to the
passenger seat proscenium.
"Now say it in a high, squeaky voice," she says.
"I love you," I squeak in my best mouse voice.
"Oh!, you really do love me," she says.
"I do," I say. I do, I do, I do.
"Say you love me," she says.
"I love you," I say.
"Say it again," she says.
"I love you," I say again.
"Say it once more," she says.
"I love you," I say once more.
"Say it louder," she says.
"I love you," I emote theatrically to the
passenger seat proscenium.
"Now say it in a high, squeaky voice," she says.
"I love you," I squeak in my best mouse voice.
"Oh!, you really do love me," she says.
"I do," I say. I do, I do, I do.
P/S: * I LOVE YOU SO MUCH SAYANG*
Monday, July 11, 2011
HANYALAH CINTA
Semua yang telah aku dapatIndah dan gemerlap
Satu hari kan pudar
Satu hari kan pudar
Dan sinarnya akan hilang
Sesuatu yang telah aku raih
Sesuatu yang telah aku raih
Di dalam hidup ini
Tak untuk selamanyaIni semua sementara
Yang aku cari hanyalah cinta
Hanya cinta yang tak terganti
Yang aku mau hanyalah cinta
Hanyalah cinta yang ku beri
Yang selalu ku tunggu hanyalah cinta
Hanya cinta yang tak terganti
Yang aku nanti hanyalah cinta
Hanyalah cinta yang abadi
Mencari artinya hidup ini
Detak waktu masih ada
Ada yang paling berwarna
Apa yang kan sia-sia
Yang aku cari hanyalah cinta
Hanya cinta yang tak terganti
Yang aku mau hanyalah cinta
Hanyalah cinta yang ku beri
abadi, abadi, hanyalah cinta
hanya cinta ooh
Yang aku cari hanyalah cinta
Hanya cinta yang tak terganti
Yang aku mau hanyalah cinta
Hanyalah cinta yang ku beri
ABADI....
Sunday, May 29, 2011
ESPECIALLY FOR YOU
Especially for you
I want to let you know what I was
Going through
All the time we were apart I thought
Of you
You were in my heart
My love never changed
I still feel the same
Especially for you
I want to tell you I was feeling that
Way too
And if dreams were wings, you
Know
I would have flown to you
To be where you are
No matter how far
And now that I?m next to you
No more dreaming about
Tomorrow
Forget the loneliness and the sorrow
I've got to say
It's all because of you
And now were back together,
Together
I want to show you my heart is oh so true
And all the love I have is
Especially for you
Especially for you
I want to tell you, you mean all the world to me
How I'm certain that our love was
Meant to be
You changed my life
You showed me the way
And now I'm next to you
I've waited long enough to find you
I want to put all the hurt behind you
And I want to bring out the love
Inside you, oh and
Now were back together, together
I want to show you my heart is oh so true
And all the love I have is
Especially for you
You were in my heart
My love never changed
And now that I?m next to you
No more dreaming about
Tomorrow
Forget the loneliness and the
Sorrow
I've got to say
It's all because of you
I want to let you know what I was
Going through
All the time we were apart I thought
Of you
You were in my heart
My love never changed
I still feel the same
Especially for you
I want to tell you I was feeling that
Way too
And if dreams were wings, you
Know
I would have flown to you
To be where you are
No matter how far
And now that I?m next to you
No more dreaming about
Tomorrow
Forget the loneliness and the sorrow
I've got to say
It's all because of you
And now were back together,
Together
I want to show you my heart is oh so true
And all the love I have is
Especially for you
Especially for you
I want to tell you, you mean all the world to me
How I'm certain that our love was
Meant to be
You changed my life
You showed me the way
And now I'm next to you
I've waited long enough to find you
I want to put all the hurt behind you
And I want to bring out the love
Inside you, oh and
Now were back together, together
I want to show you my heart is oh so true
And all the love I have is
Especially for you
You were in my heart
My love never changed
And now that I?m next to you
No more dreaming about
Tomorrow
Forget the loneliness and the
Sorrow
I've got to say
It's all because of you
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
IF YOU ARE A PASSENGER OF AN AIRLINE, PLS READ IT... =)
If you're traveling away with airplane, no matter its low-cost, five star skytrax, domestic airlines or whatever. you will meet male or female dressing with uniform and welcome you with their smile. They are 'CABIN CREW'
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They trained for help you in any emergency, not only work as YOUR waitress to serve you Coffee or Tea
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They're praying so hard that nothing is gonna happen with you during the flight.
Sometimes you see they're smiling all the way from take off and landing.
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
Deep down inside they cried, think about their sick parents.
Sometimes you see they're with branded items.
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They shop because they tried to forget about their home.
Sometimes you see them walking so fast at the terminal gate.
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They wants today to end fast, so it continuous to the other day, make one day closer to their annual leave.
Sometimes you see them sitting on the jump seat, while the service over but they did not close their eyes.
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They feel so sleepy, till they can sleep without closing their eyes.
Sometimes you yelled at them, because you cant get your choices of meal.
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They're feel guilty, but they cant do nothing about that.
Sometimes you told them to carry your 5kgs bag to the over head compartment
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They're not allowed to do that. beside,they're human and mostly woman. how about if all the passenger ask them to carry the bag?
AND WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They really wish to be in your position,
Traveling with the whole family,
Sitting next to your lover,
Cuddled your 1 year old sister/brother,
When they see outside the aircraft
They think what it feels to be on ground out there...
So PLS, if you are a PASSENGER of an airline, pls be nice and patient with the Cabin Crew... =)
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They trained for help you in any emergency, not only work as YOUR waitress to serve you Coffee or Tea
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They're praying so hard that nothing is gonna happen with you during the flight.
Sometimes you see they're smiling all the way from take off and landing.
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
Deep down inside they cried, think about their sick parents.
Sometimes you see they're with branded items.
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They shop because they tried to forget about their home.
Sometimes you see them walking so fast at the terminal gate.
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They wants today to end fast, so it continuous to the other day, make one day closer to their annual leave.
Sometimes you see them sitting on the jump seat, while the service over but they did not close their eyes.
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They feel so sleepy, till they can sleep without closing their eyes.
Sometimes you yelled at them, because you cant get your choices of meal.
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They're feel guilty, but they cant do nothing about that.
Sometimes you told them to carry your 5kgs bag to the over head compartment
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They're not allowed to do that. beside,they're human and mostly woman. how about if all the passenger ask them to carry the bag?
AND WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS:
They really wish to be in your position,
Traveling with the whole family,
Sitting next to your lover,
Cuddled your 1 year old sister/brother,
When they see outside the aircraft
They think what it feels to be on ground out there...
So PLS, if you are a PASSENGER of an airline, pls be nice and patient with the Cabin Crew... =)
Friday, April 8, 2011
FORGIVING AN AFFAIR
How to forgive an Affair and how to move on.
The discovery of an affair will attack you with shock, anger and numbness. No matter what way you choose to react, your surroundings will look the same afterwards because you have not yet started coping with what has transpired. You find that you are suddenly lost due to being caught off guard. You never thought this would happen to you. So when it does, what should you do when this painful truth is revealed and how can you forgive it?
The first thing to do when you find out that your partner has been cheating is to allow your emotions to flow out of your body. Holding your feelings in will only make you feel worse and cause a tremendous amount of stress both physically and mentally. Once you have expressed your instant reaction, you can start thinking more slowly and rationally. You will start examining your relationship, wondering where it went wrong and if it was ever as wonderful as you claimed it to be. You will create a chain of questions that have not yet been answered and will start feeling farther and farther away from getting any of them answered. Everything will be sorted out time, but first thing is first and that is getting your emotions sorted out.
Once your emotions have been expressed and sorted out, it is important to remember to not give the affair more power over your life than it deserves, even though at the time being, it feels like the end of the world. The fact of the matter is, it is not the end of the world, but has changed your world and the way you look at it, which is understandable. Know that your partner's affair has nothing to do with his or her love for you, nor does it make you a failure in relationships. What the affair does tell you though, is that there are essential issues that need to be addressed. It is normal to be angry and unable to calmly discuss this with your partner, so let him or her know that (without getting violent or throwing them out of course). Let him or her know that you are deeply hurt and angry that they chose an affair as a way to deal with the issues in your relationship and you are not ready to talk about it just yet.
When you are ready, where do you start? It will be difficult to focus on the discussion if you are torturing yourself with visual thoughts of the cheating act. Make an effort to be strong and avoid the unnecessary painful thoughts that will in no way make you feel better or get your relationship back on track. You know what goes on when two people are intimate, so save yourself the details you already know and spare yourself the hurt. The focus is to find and establish the reasons for the affair and ways you can move on with your lives together, with a new and improved affair proof relationship. Good communication will be the key to your road to recovery, so be sure to ask the right questions, listen with undivided attention and understanding, as well as answering the questions you are asked and finding suitable solutions on how to prevent the same event in the future.
Anger, as well as other emotions, will arise while you and your partner attempt to make things right and better. You may blow up during discussions because your mind will re-fresh your memory of how your partner had the guts to betray you and how stupid, hurt and disrespected it made you feel. Your partner (the afairee) may also become upset because of your non-stop attacks on him or her, especially if they confessed and genuinely apologized. Before attempting any conversations regarding the affair, be sure that you and your partner agree to disagree and express anger. You both need to have patience for each other's feelings, for it will take time to get past the emotional outbursts. If things start getting out of control and you find yourselves no longer talking, but only yelling and blaming instead, end the conversation and give each other some space. You may need to do this several times until you can talk without such interruptions. Take it one step at a time. After all, if you and your partner have made a decision to make things work, then there is no need to rush and panic.
After you and your partner get everything out in the open and understand the roots of the affair, you can then concentrate on re-building the trust and forgiving once and for all. Forgiving your partner does not mean you will forget what happened, but it will mean that you have accepted what transpired and are ready to move forward without bringing the past into your future as a couple. It will be difficult for you to blindly trust your partner again, but you must make an effort, as well as your partner. Your trust will strengthen as time goes by and through the convincing actions of your partner. You cannot put your partner on a leash and monitor him or her 24 hours a day, and you shouldn't want to. Do not expect things to magically improve, because you will be disappointed. Re-building the trust, passion and strength in your relationship will take a reasonable amount of time and could even require counseling if you feel you cannot make it on your own.
Re-building your self-esteem will help you forgive the affair as well. Being betrayed can do great damage to the way you feel about and look at yourself. You may feel less attractive physically and not worthy enough both mentally and spiritually. Get in touch with yourself and terminate your insecurities by finding ways to replenish the perspective you have on your being. Continue to tell yourself that an affair does not change the wonderful person you are and you are just as beautiful, desirable, intelligent and respectable as ever.
To avoid getting pulled back into the past, set your mind and heart on creating new memories together. Exploring new happiness will help your relationship mend and move on greatly. Go on dates, get romantic and become better friends than before! Make a permanent note in your mind that nobody is perfect but everyone deserve forgiveness for their mistakes. Try putting yourself in your partner's shoes and think about the pain and regret they are going through and how much they love you. He or she knew it was wrong to do before they did it, but probably felt it was their only way to cope with their troubles at the time. If you have been genuinely apologized to and promised that it will never happen again, then open your heart and give him or her a chance. You obviously love your partner and he or she loves you, which is why you have decided to forgive and move on. So work as a team and be each other's strength in putting the past behind you, looking at it as a learning experience in which will assist you in making your love affair-proof from this point on.
The discovery of an affair will attack you with shock, anger and numbness. No matter what way you choose to react, your surroundings will look the same afterwards because you have not yet started coping with what has transpired. You find that you are suddenly lost due to being caught off guard. You never thought this would happen to you. So when it does, what should you do when this painful truth is revealed and how can you forgive it?
The first thing to do when you find out that your partner has been cheating is to allow your emotions to flow out of your body. Holding your feelings in will only make you feel worse and cause a tremendous amount of stress both physically and mentally. Once you have expressed your instant reaction, you can start thinking more slowly and rationally. You will start examining your relationship, wondering where it went wrong and if it was ever as wonderful as you claimed it to be. You will create a chain of questions that have not yet been answered and will start feeling farther and farther away from getting any of them answered. Everything will be sorted out time, but first thing is first and that is getting your emotions sorted out.
Once your emotions have been expressed and sorted out, it is important to remember to not give the affair more power over your life than it deserves, even though at the time being, it feels like the end of the world. The fact of the matter is, it is not the end of the world, but has changed your world and the way you look at it, which is understandable. Know that your partner's affair has nothing to do with his or her love for you, nor does it make you a failure in relationships. What the affair does tell you though, is that there are essential issues that need to be addressed. It is normal to be angry and unable to calmly discuss this with your partner, so let him or her know that (without getting violent or throwing them out of course). Let him or her know that you are deeply hurt and angry that they chose an affair as a way to deal with the issues in your relationship and you are not ready to talk about it just yet.
When you are ready, where do you start? It will be difficult to focus on the discussion if you are torturing yourself with visual thoughts of the cheating act. Make an effort to be strong and avoid the unnecessary painful thoughts that will in no way make you feel better or get your relationship back on track. You know what goes on when two people are intimate, so save yourself the details you already know and spare yourself the hurt. The focus is to find and establish the reasons for the affair and ways you can move on with your lives together, with a new and improved affair proof relationship. Good communication will be the key to your road to recovery, so be sure to ask the right questions, listen with undivided attention and understanding, as well as answering the questions you are asked and finding suitable solutions on how to prevent the same event in the future.
Anger, as well as other emotions, will arise while you and your partner attempt to make things right and better. You may blow up during discussions because your mind will re-fresh your memory of how your partner had the guts to betray you and how stupid, hurt and disrespected it made you feel. Your partner (the afairee) may also become upset because of your non-stop attacks on him or her, especially if they confessed and genuinely apologized. Before attempting any conversations regarding the affair, be sure that you and your partner agree to disagree and express anger. You both need to have patience for each other's feelings, for it will take time to get past the emotional outbursts. If things start getting out of control and you find yourselves no longer talking, but only yelling and blaming instead, end the conversation and give each other some space. You may need to do this several times until you can talk without such interruptions. Take it one step at a time. After all, if you and your partner have made a decision to make things work, then there is no need to rush and panic.
After you and your partner get everything out in the open and understand the roots of the affair, you can then concentrate on re-building the trust and forgiving once and for all. Forgiving your partner does not mean you will forget what happened, but it will mean that you have accepted what transpired and are ready to move forward without bringing the past into your future as a couple. It will be difficult for you to blindly trust your partner again, but you must make an effort, as well as your partner. Your trust will strengthen as time goes by and through the convincing actions of your partner. You cannot put your partner on a leash and monitor him or her 24 hours a day, and you shouldn't want to. Do not expect things to magically improve, because you will be disappointed. Re-building the trust, passion and strength in your relationship will take a reasonable amount of time and could even require counseling if you feel you cannot make it on your own.
Re-building your self-esteem will help you forgive the affair as well. Being betrayed can do great damage to the way you feel about and look at yourself. You may feel less attractive physically and not worthy enough both mentally and spiritually. Get in touch with yourself and terminate your insecurities by finding ways to replenish the perspective you have on your being. Continue to tell yourself that an affair does not change the wonderful person you are and you are just as beautiful, desirable, intelligent and respectable as ever.
To avoid getting pulled back into the past, set your mind and heart on creating new memories together. Exploring new happiness will help your relationship mend and move on greatly. Go on dates, get romantic and become better friends than before! Make a permanent note in your mind that nobody is perfect but everyone deserve forgiveness for their mistakes. Try putting yourself in your partner's shoes and think about the pain and regret they are going through and how much they love you. He or she knew it was wrong to do before they did it, but probably felt it was their only way to cope with their troubles at the time. If you have been genuinely apologized to and promised that it will never happen again, then open your heart and give him or her a chance. You obviously love your partner and he or she loves you, which is why you have decided to forgive and move on. So work as a team and be each other's strength in putting the past behind you, looking at it as a learning experience in which will assist you in making your love affair-proof from this point on.
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